"I met you in that labyrinth, following your lead..."
Written in 2005
I am a woman...I have been struggling for centuries, and still am...I do
understand the high expectations of a man, but I live and choke on the
"Impossible Expectations" of a woman...I am expected not to be human...I
have to be perfect...yes, I know I am granted many more rights and
"freedoms", but within those freedoms, while maintaining the "image" of the
"good woman", came all the burdens of being a man...as well! It is no
coincidence that the word "Woman". contains the word "Man"!
I don't want to build any bars around you; I just hoped you'd free me from
mine... Please remember...I am judged and persecuted for what you are
praised for!
I, too, realize that life cannot be viewed through rose colored glasses and I
understand there is no such thing as a "Knight in shining armor"! And devil
knows I don't need you to be one!
Please understand my struggles too...my struggles are just like yours, so don't be
fooled into thinking that I am the enemy, when we need to team up against
what's breaking us apart.
I met you inside that labyrinth searching for the illusion of absolute bliss and I
walked out of it following your lead...
It has been a long stretched and suffocating journey in the name of liberty
and I, too, wanted to be free! But freedom has become my master and I am
still a slave!
From sexual oppression to brutal judgments, from minimum wages to
exploitations, from religious suicide to destructive habits, from false
accusations to revolutions, from insanity to sanity and back! And I still fight!
But I am not waging the war against you, my man...
My fight is against corporate greed, dogma, thought control, borderlines,
power trips and fake prophets! I need to be freed from the "I love Lucy
syndrome", and not to be made feel guilty and ashamed for having needs of
my own...I do not advocate the feminist movement, for it has become a
higher security prison in disguise!
I still need to feel like a lady who admires a man who protects her...I still want
to be Lucy without her suppressed emotions and imploding psyche...
I am a woman who, despite life, learned how to live! I deserve everything that
I am today and everything that I know I am capable of, without having to lose
my femininity...
So you, my man, must understand...I am not your warder...I don't mean to
deprive you of what you crave...But I do remind you that your conformity to
non-conformity is out of rebellion and rarely for the "right" reasons!
I understand your needs and I encourage you to follow your passions...I just
wish you didn't adopt them just to spite me...I would like to share them with
you...I am a woman who is happy to nurture you just as much as I'm proud
to fight the world with you...and so, my warrior, come fight the good fight
with me against the real tyrant that incarcerates us both just the same...
I understand: you are free in choosing whose slave you want to be...
~J.S. Wolfe
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